This blog post has been inspired from a major life lesson I learned the hard way. I feel it holds a lot of relevance when it comes to enhancing your business, and your personal life. I have been aching to share my insights about:

COMPETITION V/S COLLABORATION

We all have our own uniqueness, our own role in the game of life, but we are assailed by a need to constantly justify our existence and compete in today’s fast world (what fast world! Just because you can make popcorn faster and have a video chat while you’re at it doesn’t mean you have to be stressed!). Which brings me to this statement:

“Never do things when you have other people to do them for you.”

I realize the wisdom of these words uttered by my brother on many occasions. Now, this may bring a couple of notions to your head:

  1. My brother advised me to be lazy
  2. I support capitalism

Well, the first could be true when seen at face value. The second is not true completely. I do not support slavery and coercion for sure!

There is a very thin line between paying and buying other people’s services (read souls) and collaborating as a worthy, powerful entity with another, equally but differently empowered entity where both complement the other’s purpose.

It reminds me of the joy I felt when someone in my class in college came up with the idea of all students studying a chapter of their choice of the same book and sharing the respective summaries/understanding with all students of the class on email, right before the examination!

It is about capitalizing on human resources, yes. But also, it’s about allowing yourself to be HELPED and giving the joy of serving you to someone else (and then help them when you’re ready to; this is called building a human relationship, honey). As we all know, helping in ways, big or small, always brings joy.

It is true that human beings have infinite potential and that if you exist, you can achieve ANYTHING you desire! But why spend TONNES of your time and resources being a jack of all trades (making average tasting tea, kind of being a good driver) when you can focus on what really matters to you.

For people who are still panicking about- what will happen in case of an emergency? What if my husband leaves me? What if my assistant resigns? Relax. You’ll figure out. You have infinite potential, remember? Besides, if you make them feel valued for helping you, chances are, they’ll never leave. Hear me, ‘independent’ women?

P.s- Women’s day special: One kind of competition that has managed to the disturb me the most is the ongoing one between WOMEN and MEN! Yes!

Dear women, you don’t need to do everything on your own to PROVE your self-worth. You have nothing to prove. Just outsource!

 

By | 2017-04-16T06:38:45+00:00 March 8th, 2017|Tannya's Blog|4 Comments

4 Comments

  1. Smriti March 8, 2017 at 7:44 am - Reply

    Indeed an optimistic well written post aiming to instil a sense of raised self esteem in women, urging us not to be martyrs and take life the way it goes on! Just focusing on small things and enjoying the pleasure of being woman or human in the first place is what the writer has very successfully tried to put across in quite a terse and articulate manner. The best part, a sound practical advise to follow in today’s more practical kind of a world. Cheers!!!

    • Tannya Shukla March 8, 2017 at 9:09 am - Reply

      Hi Smriti! Your comment means the world to me, especially because it comes from a woman! Very aptly said- WOMEN are HUMANS! Not just men, even women tend to forget this. I salute women who have broken social norms, become breadwinners, raised children single-handedly, sparked women’s movements, become CEOs and more. It is well established that women can be consistent superheroes. But I feel it’s safe to say they can reward themselves by reaching out to other empowered women and men, and taking their support to improve their quality of life (and one day be able to give them credit :)).

  2. Roli tewari March 8, 2017 at 3:38 pm - Reply

    Kudos to you girl…. really very profound and very practical….as I say one might not wilt fir the other to bloom….each flower has its place n so is true for MEN n WOMEN….
    Stay blessed

    • Tannya Shukla March 8, 2017 at 4:01 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for reading the blog post! I’m happy that what I wrote resonated with your thoughts. Cheers to women! 🙂

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